"Game Changers"

"Ain Ishq Mahi Wali Nehar Wagey

Kai Taryaan Karmaan Walarian

Ik Kojhian Vi Langh Paar Gayian

Khar Rondian Shaklaan Walarian 

Ik Sohnian Dey Mathey Bhag Nahi

Bahroun Laal Tey Androun Kalarian

Ghulam Farid Allah Karam Kerey

Aibaan Walarian Dey Mathey Lalariaan"

Hi everyone,

My admiration for and infatuation with people with a vision is something that's not in my control. I am amazed at how one can go out and solve problems of the world while I can't seem to figure out what goes on in my own head, let alone in my world!

Going through a full blown motherhood for almost 40 years (where I slept like an iguana with one eye open for the first 20) entitles me to be cynical about it but I won't! I believe children are genderless as far as their parents are concerned and that's the way it should be. You worry no less for a son than you do for a daughter, you pray no less for a daughter than you do for a son. To this day I do my best to find a switch in my brain that I can somehow turn off and stop worrying about my children, knowing very well that magical device is yet to be invented. 

 

However when daughters come in to our lives we are more protective, more concerned, more cautious, and always looking out to pick up thorns from the path they choose to walk on.You tell your daughters to be self assured, confident, kind, and compassionate. You tell them to fight life relentlessly, yet with dignity and grace, and always walk away from situations and relationships with their heads held high. The jury is still out on whether we have failed to emphasize that there is bound to be an institution on any path they take, an institution they require to enroll in, an institution that is already on shaky grounds; call it an institution of marriage if you please. 

Everything in life comes with a price but the price for freedom is at times too steep and pretty hard to afford. The very expensive gift called freedom that we give to our daughters is the gift no one else will. We have raised a generation of young ladies, or rather I should say, a generation of game changers who know what they want, when they want, and more so what they don't! Do not hold them in contempt if they haven't entered as yet the mental institution called a marriage. Look up to them as they are fighting life just as hard as our sons are. Give them a break, give them a pat on their backs, give them a du'a if you can, give them a standing ovation if you will, but do not give them an attitude as they will give it right back. 

I thought it was paramount for my daughters to have their father's hand on their heads, I thought it was crucial for my daughters to have their mother's shoulder to cry on. I stand corrected on both counts! More than the guidance and protection they need to have total faith in themselves and The One who created them. After all they are His creations, with innate vulnerabilities, with innate weaknesses and with innate strengths. 

He will take care of them, He will protect them, He will guide them, and He sure will provide for them. This is the promise He gave me when He gave me four daughters and this is the only promise I will hold Him to!

Although "mother knows best", there is someone up there who, with all His magnanimity, undoubtedly knows better!

Much love,

Shehla