“Sappan they puttar miter na bandey bhawein chuliaan dudh piayey
Gai jawani feir nai aandi bhawein lakh khoorakan khaiyey”
Hi everyone,
This was about sixteen years ago. I was frantically looking through my closet to find something dazzling to wear to an upcoming wedding. I saw a fine fancy outfit from a few years back in the back of my closet which was beautiful but seemed outdated now. Suddenly, I recalled one of my friends telling me that how revamping classically beautiful clothes was her thing to do.
There was a lot of embroidery on that particular outfit’s dopatta with thread mixed in with tilla. I decided to leave the dopatta as it was and opted to make a fresh outfit with somewhat similar kaam done on the front of the shirt and sleeves and get it tailored in the latest cut. I was in my Karl Ledgefeld mode and I thought I was going to introduce this outdated outfit to a brand new spectacular life that will save this endangered species of an outfit as well as save me some money and of course turn a few heads!
Since I had a time crunch I moved fast. After countless begging, pleading and consequently threatening calls to my tailor back home, losing the left side of my brain in the process, that outfit finally got done. I got it in the mail and opened the package with the greatest anticipation on my face and in my eyes, a designer level piece in my hands. I tried it on and me, myself and I looked ridiculous and me, myself and I felt like crying. The poor original doppata was totally on its own and was trying it’s utmost to hold on to it's originality and had trouble catching up to the fresh outfit which was being a little too fresh!
It took a painful few days for me to come to terms with the fact that I had messed up big time; I not only wasted my good money on this hybrid I still was in need of a good outfit for the wedding I had to go to. At the time I didn’t realize that subconsciously I was taking liberties with two different decades with an evocative contrast in their fashion strategies!
Learn to give away your possessions to someone who knows their value and can appreciate their worth. Let someone else who enjoy their originality. Let someone else add their very own style and flair to them. Learn to accept that their time in your life has passed and it’s no more. The same can be true for human relationships with all their complexities and intricacies. It’s a no brainer that as we grow and evolve our need for them in our lives keep shifting and our outlook at their worth keeps changing. There’s no need to hold on to and safe keep relationships which start to make us look nonsensical. There’s no need to keep going ahead with relationships which has the potential to take us into a dead end street and leave us stranded!
I guess I forgot how way too many classic songs have been slaughtered with sheer insolence when a new singer, simply being out of fresh ideas attempts at remixing and comes up with a concoction lethal enough and capable enough to give one a concussion if heard on an empty stomach. You can't mess with a classic if you are not Tom Ford, you can't put a new twist on a classic if you are not Karl Ledgerfeld, you can't revamp an old outfit without losing its originality, and you can't refresh an old relationship without losing it’s true spirit, a new turka and garnish can't bring a few days old daal to new life--believe me I have tried!
Much love,
Shehla
